Comments on: The (Nursery) School of Hard Knocks http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html {Sleepless in Suburbia} Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:40:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: april http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-3023 april Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:19:34 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-3023 I'd say (going through a similar thing (only similar thank god)) with my two that 1. you handles it very well,2. I would speak to the nursery staff about it, if for no other reason than your peace of mind, make his regular teachers/staff aware of what happened and who it was 3. just keep an eye on the situation and ask the teachers to do the same if and when they can. And many, many HUGS. .-= april´s last blog ..<a href="http://lifeslightlyused.wordpress.com/2010/03/09/musings-on-a-tuesday-doesnt-work-as-well-as-musings-on-a-monday/" rel="nofollow">Musings on a Tuesday doesn’t work as well as Musings on a Monday</a> =-. I’d say (going through a similar thing (only similar thank god)) with my two that 1. you handles it very well,2. I would speak to the nursery staff about it, if for no other reason than your peace of mind, make his regular teachers/staff aware of what happened and who it was 3. just keep an eye on the situation and ask the teachers to do the same if and when they can. And many, many HUGS.
.-= april´s last blog ..Musings on a Tuesday doesn’t work as well as Musings on a Monday =-.

]]> By: MrsW http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-3021 MrsW Thu, 11 Mar 2010 22:42:49 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-3021 I've been in her shoes and I've been in yours - they're both horrible! I think it's shocking that the member of staff didn't intervene, that really would have been ideal since it's their place and their rules that the children are supposed to be following, and they often do differ from those of the parents. Children aren't daft, they are perfectly able to recognise this and I'm sure the nursery have some pretty obvious and oft repeated "Golden Rules" of behaviour that the boy, already being there, would know. Hopefully he was just saying hello with his fists, socially awkward boys are wont to do that - aren't boys just the best? .-= MrsW´s last blog ..<a href="http://clinicallyfedup.com/?p=2756" rel="nofollow">Looking at the thistle with a drunk man</a> =-. I’ve been in her shoes and I’ve been in yours – they’re both horrible!

I think it’s shocking that the member of staff didn’t intervene, that really would have been ideal since it’s their place and their rules that the children are supposed to be following, and they often do differ from those of the parents. Children aren’t daft, they are perfectly able to recognise this and I’m sure the nursery have some pretty obvious and oft repeated “Golden Rules” of behaviour that the boy, already being there, would know.

Hopefully he was just saying hello with his fists, socially awkward boys are wont to do that – aren’t boys just the best?
.-= MrsW´s last blog ..Looking at the thistle with a drunk man =-.

]]> By: amy http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-3020 amy Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:06:15 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-3020 how horrid!! i bet you and him were so shocked! Lets hope it was a one off and that horrid boy is no where near him. I would have been livid if some brat had done that to my child, i hope things go more smoothly for you xx .-= amy´s last blog ..<a href="http://and1moremeansfour.blogspot.com/2010/03/no-mortgagerent-for-yearyes-please.html" rel="nofollow">No mortgage/rent for a year....yes please!!</a> =-. how horrid!! i bet you and him were so shocked! Lets hope it was a one off and that horrid boy is no where near him. I would have been livid if some brat had done that to my child, i hope things go more smoothly for you xx
.-= amy´s last blog ..No mortgage/rent for a year….yes please!! =-.

]]> By: Stefanie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-3019 Stefanie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:17:16 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-3019 God, that's shocking, how awful! Poor Big E, I hope he is ok and not too traumatised by it! It doesn't exactly inspire you with confidence seeing that happen when they're supposed to be settling in and the nursery didn't react the way you'd have hoped. Hopefully it will be a one-off incident. I hope the child's mother was suitably mortified at her son's behaviour. God, that’s shocking, how awful! Poor Big E, I hope he is ok and not too traumatised by it! It doesn’t exactly inspire you with confidence seeing that happen when they’re supposed to be settling in and the nursery didn’t react the way you’d have hoped. Hopefully it will be a one-off incident. I hope the child’s mother was suitably mortified at her son’s behaviour.

]]> By: Very Bored in Catalunya http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-3018 Very Bored in Catalunya Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:46:34 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-3018 Blimey, that sounds horrendous and as you say not some normal toddler push around. Hopefully it was a one off and the child is normally better behaved. xx .-= Very Bored in Catalunya´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.veryboredincatalunya.com/2010/03/memories.html" rel="nofollow">Memories</a> =-. Blimey, that sounds horrendous and as you say not some normal toddler push around. Hopefully it was a one off and the child is normally better behaved. xx
.-= Very Bored in Catalunya´s last blog ..Memories =-.

]]> By: Ellie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2995 Ellie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:33:19 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2995 The boy's poor mother was mortified so rather than wade in and demand apologies etc I just let her deal with him and comforted Big E. I try not to blame parents for their kid's behaviour. Big E sometimes has the biggest public tantrums even though he's well brought up/loved. Sometimes these things come out of the blue and you can't always 'control your child' as easily as you'd like, much to the annoyance of some member of the public ;). Fingers crossed it gets easier LOL! I'm hoping that this incident is a one off as he has to like it there, we have no choice! :) The boy’s poor mother was mortified so rather than wade in and demand apologies etc I just let her deal with him and comforted Big E.

I try not to blame parents for their kid’s behaviour. Big E sometimes has the biggest public tantrums even though he’s well brought up/loved. Sometimes these things come out of the blue and you can’t always ‘control your child’ as easily as you’d like, much to the annoyance of some member of the public ;) .

Fingers crossed it gets easier LOL!

I’m hoping that this incident is a one off as he has to like it there, we have no choice!

:)

]]> By: Ellie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2994 Ellie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:28:50 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2994 Yeah I mentioned it to the lady who saw it but she didn't say much. As I said to Mrs Harvey above. I reckon they left us Mum's to deal with it. :) Yeah I mentioned it to the lady who saw it but she didn’t say much. As I said to Mrs Harvey above. I reckon they left us Mum’s to deal with it.

:)

]]> By: Ellie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2993 Ellie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:27:48 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2993 I don't think the staff knew what to say. The mother handled it so I guess since it was in the cloakroom and we were with our own children then they just don't get involved. I don’t think the staff knew what to say. The mother handled it so I guess since it was in the cloakroom and we were with our own children then they just don’t get involved.

]]> By: Ellie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2992 Ellie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:26:35 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2992 It was awful. You get used to them pushing each other etc over a toy they don't want to share, but to be attacked like that was just scary! Thankfully he seems unperturbed thus far! It was awful. You get used to them pushing each other etc over a toy they don’t want to share, but to be attacked like that was just scary!

Thankfully he seems unperturbed thus far!

]]> By: Ellie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2991 Ellie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:25:20 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2991 Yeah Bev, I had the same discussion with Mr H. I expect it is to avoid conflict between the respective parents. I reckon some behave wprse than their kids LOL! x Yeah Bev, I had the same discussion with Mr H. I expect it is to avoid conflict between the respective parents. I reckon some behave wprse than their kids LOL!

x

]]> By: Ellie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2990 Ellie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:24:18 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2990 That's what I'd heard too. That’s what I’d heard too.

]]> By: Ellie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2989 Ellie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:23:14 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2989 I hope they do. My son is no angel but it's scary to asctually see another child do that. :( I hope they do. My son is no angel but it’s scary to asctually see another child do that.

:(

]]> By: bev http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2988 bev Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:19:06 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2988 probably because of the way some parents behave towards other parents. I don't agree but I think that is why. .-= bev´s last blog ..<a href="http://ibakewithout.wordpress.com/2010/03/05/courgette-carrot-and-apple-muffins/" rel="nofollow">Courgette, Carrot and Apple Muffins</a> =-. probably because of the way some parents behave towards other parents. I don’t agree but I think that is why.
.-= bev´s last blog ..Courgette, Carrot and Apple Muffins =-.

]]> By: bev http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2987 bev Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:16:37 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2987 Poor boy! after he had such a lovely day as well! hugs x I think that you should perhaps ask the nursary about the boy involved, has this happened before, does he have suspected behavioural problems and do they think he will do it again. I feel quite sorry for his mother as I think people do often assume it is the parents fault and there are normally a number of things going on to contribute. The fact she apologised is a good thing, she is probably mortified by the whole thing. I do think if there was a nursary worker there she should have got involved to some degree. Hopefully this won't happen again and big E will enjoy the rest of his nursary time. x .-= bev´s last blog ..<a href="http://ibakewithout.wordpress.com/2010/03/05/courgette-carrot-and-apple-muffins/" rel="nofollow">Courgette, Carrot and Apple Muffins</a> =-. Poor boy! after he had such a lovely day as well! hugs x
I think that you should perhaps ask the nursary about the boy involved, has this happened before, does he have suspected behavioural problems and do they think he will do it again. I feel quite sorry for his mother as I think people do often assume it is the parents fault and there are normally a number of things going on to contribute. The fact she apologised is a good thing, she is probably mortified by the whole thing.

I do think if there was a nursary worker there she should have got involved to some degree. Hopefully this won’t happen again and big E will enjoy the rest of his nursary time. x
.-= bev´s last blog ..Courgette, Carrot and Apple Muffins =-.

]]> By: rachael http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2986 rachael Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:09:11 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2986 Did you speak to the staff about it? They have to tell you if its a witnessed accident/fight whatever.. I would speak to the staff, our nursery is very good both with the victim and the offender (normally my daughter..) and they really work towards curbing any naughty behaviours. Did you speak to the staff about it?

They have to tell you if its a witnessed accident/fight whatever..

I would speak to the staff, our nursery is very good both with the victim and the offender (normally my daughter..) and they really work towards curbing any naughty behaviours.

]]> By: mrsharvey http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2985 mrsharvey Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:07:33 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2985 oh gosh hun that is awful and poor Big E, I hope that the nursery do keep you informed, did the nursery staff who saw it not say anything to you? oh gosh hun that is awful and poor Big E, I hope that the nursery do keep you informed, did the nursery staff who saw it not say anything to you?

]]> By: The Moiderer http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2984 The Moiderer Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:49:03 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2984 That sounds really horrible. At The Mad House says I would expect the nursery to take more decisive action than that. That sounds really horrible. At The Mad House says I would expect the nursery to take more decisive action than that.

]]> By: @goonerjamie http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2983 @goonerjamie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:38:35 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2983 I'm fairly sure they have to tell you, but they dont have to tell you the name of the other kid, which doesn't really help in my opinion. .-= @goonerjamie´s last blog ..<a href="http://goonerjamie.blogspot.com/2010/03/tale-of-two-sisters.html" rel="nofollow">A Tale of Two Sisters</a> =-. I’m fairly sure they have to tell you, but they dont have to tell you the name of the other kid, which doesn’t really help in my opinion.
.-= @goonerjamie´s last blog ..A Tale of Two Sisters =-.

]]> By: The Mad House http://www.insomniacmummy.com/2010/03/the-nursery-school-of-hard-knocks.html/comment-page-1#comment-2982 The Mad House Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:32:05 +0000 http://www.insomniacmummy.com/?p=728#comment-2982 That is totally unacceptable, you will remember that mini was really naughty in Preschool one day and I got brought in and so did the mum of the boy he hit. They will tell you, I think thay have too .-= The Mad House´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Themadhouse/~3/TqC6AnXHEx4/under-pressure.html" rel="nofollow">Under Pressure</a> =-. That is totally unacceptable, you will remember that mini was really naughty in Preschool one day and I got brought in and so did the mum of the boy he hit. They will tell you, I think thay have too
.-= The Mad House´s last blog ..Under Pressure =-.

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