I’ve written about Big E’s phobia of having his hair cut on more than one occasion, and by now, almost two and a half months after his 4th birthday, I was hoping he’d have ‘grown out of it’.
But, he hasn’t.
My boy is quite literally terrified of having his hair cut. He screams blue murder when we wash it, has a meltdown when we use the hairdryer, and we’re lucky if we can get a brush through it once a week. It’s an ongoing battle of us not losing our patience and not forcing him to do anything he’s uncomfortable with, in the hope that he’ll one day simply have his hair cut.
I guess a phobia like this is often hard to understand. After all, a haircut is something most of us happily have many times a year. For my boy, the very thought fills him with dread and panic. The last time he had his haircut properly was May 2010. In the eight months since, he’s let me trim his fringe once, and the three snips he allowed me to make took over an hour and a half to complete.
It was torturous for the both of us.
Today my gorgeous mop top boy has hair so long he is regularly mistaken for a girl. He wants his haircutting and has mentioned two friends from nursery whose hair styles he likes, we just can’t persuade him to actually go through with the cut. Out of the blue he asked to go to the hairdressers one Saturday morning, and we thought, ‘Yes! A breakthrough!’, but he got through the door and started physically shaking before his Daddy could even get him in the chair, so home he came. One step forward, two steps back.
He’s watched Daddy have his hair cut with the clippers, I’ve shown him umpteen videos on You Tube, nursery have had special days just for him where they’ve talked about hairdressers and even cut, washed, brushed and dried dolls’ hair. Nothing works. Nothing.
I feel like I’m at the end of my tether. I cannot even explain how stressed and upset it makes me feel, I’ve cried over it, so goodness only knows how my poor boy feels about it all! I think I’ve got to the point where I have no choice but to go and visit our (very child friendly) GP and see if there is anything at all he can suggest to help with what is most certainly a phobia.
I just want this stress to be over. For all of us.